As far as I'm concerned - as long it is legal - what you as consenting adults discuss trying is your business.

The most common kinky things partners ask to try include: Being blindfolded, a bit of spanking, tying up, and dressing in role-play outfits.

Academy Rule No. 6: Students should never feel pressured to go beyond the 'kink-level' they feel happy with!

Here's a checklist every good student should memorise:

If your partner raises kinky sex-play (or you want to raise it with them) try these:

*Be clear exactly what's meant. The word "bondage" might be mentioned and all they mean is getting fur-lined handcuffs from the high street adult shop. They don't mean sticking you in a dungeon!

*Because some partners will panic at words like "bondage" think carefully how you describe the thing you want to try... so take the fright-factor out.

* It'll boost your confidence if you stick to some fantasy-chat first. It's fun and sexy and you can sound out how far you two might want to go.

* It'll make you both feel secure reassuring each other this is "special occasion sex". You're not going to have to 'swing from chandeliers' every time you have sex.

*If you do anything like handcuffing each other remember it's no joke to leave someone handcuffed (or tied up). Just don't do it!

Your Hot Homework

It's time to apply your new knowledge –

Let's take the handcuffs scenario - invest in some from an adult shop. Or spare your blushes and order them online. Then experiment on each other.

You can tease the person who's handcuffed by kissing them all over and even "tormenting" them with an ice cube held between your lips. Trace a cold line over their erogenous zones only to be warmed up with a trail of lovely warm kisses afterwards.

Or while they're "captive" turn it into a hot fantasy where you're taking them away to be kept as your sexy prisoner. Have fun with banter along these lines - or any other scenario that you two conjure up.

Heighten the teasing by using their favourite sex toy on them while they're handcuffed. It's so going to be payback time when it's your turn to be cuffed.

The equation: handcuffs + sensitive handling = fun experimentation!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percentage of people admit to getting turned on by spanking - is it:

A) 75%

B) 15%

C) 5%

Test Your Knowledge answer:

The correct answer is B) - 15% of people enjoy a bit of a spank - either giving or receiving!

Loved-up Celebs

Alex Turner + mystery brunette

It's only been a couple months since Arctic Monkeys' Alex Turner split with long-term love Alexa Chung. Pictured out with a mystery brunette in LA I hope she's wary he might be 'on the rebound'.

Men on the rebound are notorious for ignoring the fact they're carrying around emotional baggage. It's only the next girlfriend that finds out... when he acts a bit crazy, can't commit, breaks her heart, etc.

Women tend to know they're packing an extra suitcase of emotional stuff and hopefully deal with it. Make sure choices you make in your new relationship aren't dictated by painful feelings from your last relationship.

Dr Pam's Position

The Kneeling Dog

A fab variation on classic Doggy-style but here she kneels on the floor resting her hands - or her arms - on the edge of a sofa or bed. A perfect position if suddenly a bit of cuddling has heated up. For extra comfort she can slip a pillow under her knees.

He kneels behind her and takes her in Doggy style. As she supports herself on the sofa/bed edge he can reach around with one of his arms to play with her breasts, or stroke her stomach or clitoral region. He can also do this armed with a vibrator for more pleasure for her.

Sextra Academy Tip: If you're like 15 oer cent of couples who want to try gentle spanking, in this position he can easily deliver a couple spanks on her bottom before starting full sex.

It's time to apply your new knowledge –

Get creative with things you already have that could work well as sexy gear. Pair some very high heels with little frilly knickers - strut around in front of him with you both pretending he's caught you out getting dressed.

The equation: imagination + sexy gear = red hot love!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percent of people say they get turned on by spanking - is it:

A/ 15%

B/ 75%

C/ 5%

Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A/ - 15% of people say they like to include spanking in their sex play. That's potentially a lot of sore bottoms!

Loved-up Celebs

It's not surprising Amanda Holden always looks radiant after announcing recently she and husband Chris Hughes are expecting a baby. After the devastation of losing their baby son earlier this year they now face a brighter future.

The fallout from a tragedy breaks up some couples. But those who keep talking and supporting each other - as Amanda and Chris obviously did - can come out the other side fighting and with a stronger relationship.

If you two are facing a crisis, face it together and support each other.

Dr Pam's Position

The Courtesan

This is a sophisticated position that she can pair-up with some new sexy gear she's bought - like a short miniskirt minus her knickers.

She sits on a lowish chair or at the end of the bed. He kneels in front of her - on the floor - facing her. Their hips need to be at the same height for full sex.

As they kiss and cuddle she lifts her legs carefully and wraps them around his lower back. She pulls him in towards her and edges on to the end of the bed or chair.

He studies her by holding her around her waist. Once they're in position and comfortable he can begin gentle thrusting.

They may not last long in this position - as she needs quite a bit of strength to keep her legs wrapped around him - but it's an excellent one for them to continue kissing and caressing.